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Parallel Play

Journal Entry: Mon Nov 9, 2009, 4:59 PM
  • Mood: Worried
  • Listening to: No Purchase No Pay; The Corsairs
  • Reading: Parallel Play; Tim Page
  • Watching: X-Men
  • Eating: Tuna Fish Sandwich
  • Drinking: Crangrape Juice


"For success in science or art, a dash of autism is essential."

-Dr. Hans Asperger

Hey Everybody.

As is my want after I finish reading a particularly brilliant book, I feel compelled to use my DA journal, subject as it is to my thoughts and emotions, to express my thoughts.
And in this case, my analysis is particularly personal.

"Parallel Play" is a 2008 memoir by Music Critic and Professor, Tim Page, documenting his life, childhood and development into manhood.
The full title of the book is:

"Parallel Play, Growing Up With Undiagnosed Aspergers."

During the introduction and the epilogue, Tim discusses the developmental disorder he was born with: Aspergers syndrome, while the body of the book is devoted to recounting the events of his life.

For those of you who might not know, Aspergers Syndrome was first brought to the attention of the Psychiatric community by the Austrian pediatrician Hans Asperger in 1944.
In essence, it is a mild and rare form of autism.
The syndrome is usually characterized by the following symptoms.

-Having poor or stunted social development

-Perceptive sensitivity, such as sensitivity to loud noises or bright lights

-Extremely narrow and specific interests

-Dislike form any changes in setting or routine

-Having a hard time "reading" other people or understanding humor

-Having difficulty recognizing social cues

-Having an above average memory and vocabulary

-Harboring a powerful need for solitude for a calm psychological state

And so on.

What made "Parallel Play" a particularly profound read for me was not just the fact that much of the story takes place in Storrs Connecticut, the town where I grew up, but that I have in the past and to a large extent still do, exhibit all of the aforementioned symptoms.
On more than one occasion been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome.

Like autism itself, Aspergers has many forms and variants. Being born with the condition might leave one as merely mildly eccentric to full-blown, high-functioning autism. I fall somewhere in between.

I had known about my condition for some time. I won't go into the full plethora of details about my childhood, but suffice it to say, a fair amount of it wasn't pretty.
I had tried to carry on and live a somewhat normal life after leaving college. I haven't done very well in the real world thusfar, but I've survived on my own, far from my family for 3 years now, even managing for some security and stability.
It wasn't until recently thought when I read "Parallel Play," and realized how much living on my own was a step into a completely different world.

I've had some success in adapting to the work-a-day world, but the true reality of working for a large corporation and the sacrifices it requires were thrown into sharp relief when I read "Parallel Play."
My current line of work only has a limited capacity to satisfy the interests that my Aspergers has granted me. And in reading the book, I was all the more glad that I pursued one of these interests independently: writing.

I'm far from the stage where I can get paid to write, but with my first, unpublished, 900-page novel under my belt, my confidence that I can aspire to the lofty goals and heightened discipline required for the serious writer. Now that I'm past the halfway point of the rough draft of my second novel, I have no doubt I'll see the denouement through to the end.
Whether I'll actually see any financial reward for my efforts is another matter. What matters most for me is that I have an outlet for one of my interests, and one which I can pursue with tenacity and fervor. On one of my days off I can spend upwards of 8 hours simply writing, and I can't get enough.
My problem is that the same Aspergers that gives me the endurance to compose in solitude is the same syndrome that dislikes change in routine and encroachment on my free time, which is more the rule than the exception in the corporate world.
But I digress.

In short, "Parallel Play" is a brilliant book, and I'd recommend it to anyone.

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As for me, the prose gave me a lot to think about, and helped me learn a lot about myself. That's for damn sure.
In the meanwhile, I hope you all are well in your respective ventures.
Be well, all. Take care of each other.

"Personal failings are no excuse to not serve the common obligation to give of ourselves."

-Ted Kennedy

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:iconwinters-avatar:
. I will definitely have to pick up this book, it looks intriguing. Since I have several friends with Asperger's and I have two autistic cousins on my mom's side. Perhaps it can inspire more of us to become better disciplined and in turn have more fulfillment and possible success as well. What a wonderful epiphany no?
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=SilverVulpine Nov 18, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
It's a wonderful read.

I just got off the phone with my mom and she was telling me about how she used to go to High School with the author.
Truefax! :)

And my Asperger's isn't very severe. But it's there.

And it is an inspiring read about overcoming adversity.
A wonderful epiphany indeed.

Thanks, luv. :)
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:iconwinters-avatar:
small world isn't it? It's so surprising how accurate the six separation rule really is XD.
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:iconsilvervulpine:
=SilverVulpine Nov 23, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
It IS a small world. XD

Sid Degrees of Tim Page. :D
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:iconwinters-avatar:
:XD: and I got your parcel today, thank you very very much ^^. The cookies are delicious! I should send off the honey cakes and your card on Thursday ^^. Merry Christmas! <3 :hug:
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:iconsilvervulpine:
=SilverVulpine Dec 1, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Hurray! :)

You're welcome, my dear. :hug:

I'm glad you like them.
And again... see the note I sent you. ^^;

Merry Christmas, luv.
And a happy New Year.
:hug:
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:iconnomyai:
Interesting Journal, my young friend. Personally, I believe you've done a masterful job of dealing with your environment and excelling.

I'll add this title to the ever growing list of books I want to read. Thanks for a very insightful read about yourself.
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:iconsilvervulpine:
=SilverVulpine Nov 10, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
Thank you very much, my distinguished gentleman friend. :)

And that's very kind of you to say. I'd like to think I've done well...

It's a good book! You shant regret it!

And you're welcome. Im glad you enjoyed it. :)
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:iconnomyai:
You're very welcome. You have done rather well, by the way.
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:iconsilvervulpine:
=SilverVulpine Nov 11, 2009  Hobbyist Photographer
You're too good to me, kind sir. :)
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